Miley Cyrus engaged? A 19-year-old's perspective.
Okay, so I honestly started laughing when I was doing my regular round of people.com perusing and saw that Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth are engaged.
Seriously? She's only months older than I am.
And I know there's been much debate in the past 24 hours concerning their engagement. Some people say they are too young, others think that it isn't about age but about maturity. Others play the numbers game a different way--Miley and Liam have been together (more or less) for three years now. That is a lot longer than many other courtships that end in marriage.
So with all this in mind, I really can't say definitively if I'm for or against this. Wait, I really hate that sentence. It sounds as if I (read: we, the people) have any sort of say in the matter. I guess above all people will do what they want, and a (possibly mismatched, possibly too-quick, possibly true-love-forever) celebrity marriage won't hurt anyone.
But let's just think about this for a moment.
Age: Any 19-year-old getting married is a big red flag for me. Regardless of how long you have been with your partner, I just think 19 is too young. I believe it's important to experiment and live a little--date lots of people, get to know lots of people, and build lots of relationships. I don't care how mature you are, but us 19-year-olds still have much growing up to do.
Maturity: Granted in Miley's case, maturity is on her side. She has dealt with a lot more than your typical teenager. No, she has probably never been in need for money and has never struggled to pay the water bill, but I'm sure working in the business she's in from a very young age has forced her to hold up her own. She works with a lot of hot-shot people, is constantly in the public eye and performance reviews aren't exactly private. Whether you're a fan or not, there's a professional conduct there that most of us will take decades to develop. Of course though, with her line of work, there are definitely certain aspects of maturity that a frivolous and entitled environment hinder from developing.
Relationship length: They've been together for three years. From what we as the public eye can tell, they have found a way to make their relationship work. I respect that.
My ambivalence is rooted in that I am sort of now realizing I am part of this generation (celebrity or not) that will start getting married, having kids, and making other, super-serious life decisions very very soon. It brings me back to this one moment my future roommate and I shared--we were at a party, staring at everyone in the room and just saying to each other, "In ten years, we're all going to each other's weddings. Wait, make that five years."
Personally, I've never been in a rush to the altar. And I still see no reason why I should be.
And I think I'll keep it that way.
p.s. I do think the ring is gorgeous.